How to Increase your Libido!

Do you want to want it, but just – don’t?! You’re not alone! We’ve all been there: “I’ve got a headache tonight”. Or maybe you’ve lost your solo mojo and are feeling a bit restless towards masturbation?

The libido is a person’s overall drive for sexual activity and can be influenced by biological, psychological and environmental factors. It ebbs and flows throughout our life naturally, but there are things we can do to influence that!

No matter what your gender identity, relationship status or age, we can help you…

Experiencing a low libido can cause emotional bi-products such as confusion, sadness, aloneness, worthlessness, insecurities and anger. Whatever you’re feeling, it’s normal; but if these feelings become too intense or last for longer than a month, always consult your doctor. Approximately 4 out of 5 men over 45 have low testosterone levels which lowers the male libido; this is one for your GP – but definitely don’t suffer in ignorance.

It can be disruptive for single and coupled individuals alike, but communicating your concerns to a partner, therapist or friend can help to empty your mind by processing how you’re feeling aloud.

There are many reasons why one’s libido may take a dive: from diet to personal stresses to simply not wanting to continue having a sex-life. Let’s figure out why yours has dipped:

• Do you have higher stress levels than usual? (Personal, family, work, etc.)
• Do you feel unhappy or insecure in your relationship?
• Do you have an unhealthy diet?
• Do you get less than 7 hours sleep per night?
• Do you spend most of your time indoors?
• Do you struggle to adhere to a regular exercise regime?
• Do you associate sex or masturbation with negative experiences?
• Do you take any medications that could affect your libido?
• Do you drink alcohol or use drugs?
• Do you feel like you’re in a toxic and unhealthy relationship?

If you answered yes to any of those questions – that could be the culprit! Believe it or not, the lifestyle we live and our perspective we hold on it, has a direct connection to our genital’s desire to get their kicks.

If you answered no to these questions, consider a possibility of life without sex – would that be so bad? Asexuality (a sexual orientation – not a dysfunction) describes someone who has little to no sex drive. Asexual people form successful and happy relationships, without sex.

If you think this may be you, look out for our upcoming post about Asexuality!

The likelihood is that your sexual juices have just dipped a little bit and will return to normal soon! Remember – it’s common for libido levels to vary throughout life – so don’t panic!

To help speed through this natural dip, we made a list of tried-and-tested ways to jump-start your libido:

Figure out the root of the problem:

Take a moment to think about potential contributing factors and make an actionable plan to deal with them – for your psychological wellbeing more than anything else.

Alter your diet:

Aphrodisiacs are libido-boosting foods and including them as part of a healthy, balanced diet could really help! Bananas, fig, red ginseng, pistachio nuts and saffron are all sexual-super-foods!

Introduce a third, fourth, or fifth person:

When we get intimate with new partners, it can make us like ourselves more and boost our self-confidence. Obviously, we can’t advocate for debauchery outside your and your partner’s limits, but consider kink parties, sex parties or threesomes to spice up your sex life.

Introduce a toy – or toys!

A game-changer in any sexual scandal. And it should be scandalous! (Provided it’s charged up!) So, plug in, get comfy and the aim will never be to finish! New sensations and exciting discoveries about our own bodies can inject passion into our sexual tentacles to get them twitching again! See our awesome Luxury Toy Range here!

Have a date night:

This can be with a long-term, short-term or brand-new partner but add a little garlic to your recipe when cooking: it contains allicin, which increases blood flow …oh, yeah.

Eat some chocolate!

Chocolate promotes the release of phenethylamine and serotonin which have mood-lifting effects.

Try something new! (Position, technique, act or stimulation)

Do you and your partner always head to the bedroom for a play session? Why not try the kitchen, shower or even the rug in front of the fireplace? If you’re going it solo, switch it up with a new technique or position: head to our 12 Days of Self Love to get some ideas!

Play a game:

Don’t reach for the normal Scrabble this date night, grab a game here and never, ever, play fair!

Get out of your own head:

(This is one of our favorites!) Head out – solo or as a couple hit a bar and then part ways. Come up with a fun and lovable character and be that person until the clock strikes midnight – much like Cinderella if you think about it! Whether you’re meeting new people or having a “first date” with your partner of 10 years, we promise this one will leave you with thigh-tensing memories.

Try a different type of relationship:

This doesn’t mean that you and your partner – who I’m sure you love – should break up. It simply means you could communicate a desire to re-establish the boundaries of your relationship. Millions of couples worldwide engage in polyamory or are in open relationships and this unorthodox freedom saves relationships every day! We’ll talk more about this on our upcoming post on Polyamory – keep your eyes peeled!